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Wednesday, June 30, 2010
Monday, June 28, 2010
Thoughts along the Way
Thoughts along the way...the 12 hour car drive way of traveling with a Toddler from Tulsa, OK back to southwest Indiana.
* Priorities really are important
* Am I giving what I have, wherever, whenever?
* What needs to change so everyday life isn't so full and stressful?
* How I wish I could get-away like this more often - at least 2x a year if not quarterly.
* Zoos are sooooooooo much fun!
* How do I communicate to others my purpose?
* Am I good soil for God or just a distraction or just prevent weeds but do not fertilize any other growth for others?
* How am I suppose to help Mark?
* Why weren't Mark and I on the same page this past week?
* Priorities really are important
* Am I giving what I have, wherever, whenever?
* What needs to change so everyday life isn't so full and stressful?
* How I wish I could get-away like this more often - at least 2x a year if not quarterly.
* Zoos are sooooooooo much fun!
* How do I communicate to others my purpose?
* Am I good soil for God or just a distraction or just prevent weeds but do not fertilize any other growth for others?
* How am I suppose to help Mark?
* Why weren't Mark and I on the same page this past week?
Saturday, June 19, 2010
Garage Sale Saturday
I think I will begin a Saturday ritual of posting about a garage sale or garage sales to get out and see new things and meet new people in the area soooo it will be titled "Garage Sale Saturday".
This Saturday, today, was full of selling my own things at a friend's garage sale. There we finally sold the hard-to-part-with but tired-of-being-in-our-bedroom queen bed frame.
We were also able to sell a half-circle table and bar stools which has just cluttered up our living space (loved the stools but they had to go with that table). All in all it was a lovely selling day. It began with much rain and ended up hot and steamy but apparently those who really wanted to come out and were interested did. This really was one of the best garage sales I've ever been too: modern items, nearly new items and barely used, lots of variety and large items that were practically steals!
But I am glad it is done...until another sale...
This Saturday, today, was full of selling my own things at a friend's garage sale. There we finally sold the hard-to-part-with but tired-of-being-in-our-bedroom queen bed frame.
We were also able to sell a half-circle table and bar stools which has just cluttered up our living space (loved the stools but they had to go with that table). All in all it was a lovely selling day. It began with much rain and ended up hot and steamy but apparently those who really wanted to come out and were interested did. This really was one of the best garage sales I've ever been too: modern items, nearly new items and barely used, lots of variety and large items that were practically steals!
But I am glad it is done...until another sale...
Saturday, June 12, 2010
Cats vs. Dogs
With the experience of having a dog in our house and in our lives once again for a full week. I think I have concluded that they are more work than cats.
Growing up I had a puppy named Tippy whom I adored and he adored me. He lived for 14 years and died suddenly in the summer of a high school year. I mourned tremendously and just knew that I would not be able to have a dog for many years to come. It hurt too badly. I still loved dogs and do enjoy them even now...but I've found that my life's rhythm is with my cats. They are laid back, playful at times - spontaneously so and shrug off life's hardships. They cuddle when we are close and usually like to stay in the same room but they are never on top of us, never lick us and simply purr.
Yes I do believe that I am a cat-lover and a dog-liker. Now newborn puppies are a different story (LOVE newborn and just walking puppies!). I don't think we'll be owning a dog anytime soon but it was fun to have the opportunity to experience having one again - his loyalty, companionship and ongoing presence was nice for the time-being.
Thursday, June 10, 2010
LMFT National Exam
I did it. I finally took the test I'd been waiting to take since graduation of grad school in 2006. I thought about taking it right out since we were in Kentucky still but waited (probably out of fear)...so then came to Indiana and knew I couldn't take it for awhile...then legislature passed for my group to be able to take it if we desired. I jumped on board and was quickly haulted by bureacrative processes and then questions from the board. This was Fall of 2008...then sent in my syllabus along with a letter, and did not hear anything for months. Continued to inquire and then eventually was approved to take the test in July of 2009. Ian was not quite 7 months old and studying at that point was not an option.
So I waited...began counseling again (since I am in the crack between the legislature and my graduating class date - it is ok), and decided that the last window of opportunity before I would have to reapply was a good one for this May-June window and it worked out. I studied and studied...and studied...and studied. My contacts would be sticking to my eyes...I gained 10-15 lbs. between beginning of April (even with the mini-marathon) to now (mid-June) due to anxiety, over-eating and underexercising. Sometimes I forget what stress and anxiety do to me.
But ALAS, I took it and Lordwilling it is done. I find out in 6 weeks if I passed and if I did then...I believe God has some new things in store for me.
I'll be somewhat "legit" and though I will still need to gather my hours and only work part-time. It will take awhile to be fully licensed...but that is ok. Because I'm not willing to sacrifice time with my family that I have, getting burned out if I worked full-time 50 hrs a week, doing billing and paperwork and not able to be who God has designed me to be. His purpose...not mine.
We will see.
So I waited...began counseling again (since I am in the crack between the legislature and my graduating class date - it is ok), and decided that the last window of opportunity before I would have to reapply was a good one for this May-June window and it worked out. I studied and studied...and studied...and studied. My contacts would be sticking to my eyes...I gained 10-15 lbs. between beginning of April (even with the mini-marathon) to now (mid-June) due to anxiety, over-eating and underexercising. Sometimes I forget what stress and anxiety do to me.
But ALAS, I took it and Lordwilling it is done. I find out in 6 weeks if I passed and if I did then...I believe God has some new things in store for me.
I'll be somewhat "legit" and though I will still need to gather my hours and only work part-time. It will take awhile to be fully licensed...but that is ok. Because I'm not willing to sacrifice time with my family that I have, getting burned out if I worked full-time 50 hrs a week, doing billing and paperwork and not able to be who God has designed me to be. His purpose...not mine.
We will see.
Wednesday, June 9, 2010
Facebook Status
I think my mind split open and the information I have learned over the last 6 years with therapy and models is oozing out into my laundry...
I think something broke in my brain...it's spinning.
I think something broke in my brain...it's spinning.
Sunday, June 6, 2010
Family Dynamics
James Framo (from object-relations therapy model) concluded:
"The politics of family requires that family members live with each other for many years and never tell each other how they really feel; through a lifetime they do not meet or touch. One of the things we try to accomplish...is to help the members really see each other, to tell each other frankly their warm, positive feelings as well as the angry ones, and to allow happiness to become something to be experienced, rather than something to be remembered (p.190)."
Framo, J.L. (1976).Family of origin as a therapeutic resource for adults in marital and family therapy: You can and should go home again. Family Process, Vol 15, 193-210.
My take from this - this therapy model is rather interesting, still trying to wrap my head around it for sure but one thing I love about this is bringing a couple's family-of-origin (one partner at a time) into the therapeutic process.
I think of my own family-of-origin and the many unresolved or unknown perceptions and processes that have gone on and continue to go on with my older brother, my cousins, aunts and uncles and my own parents. It is something we often never take time to really talk about TOGETHER. And in a non-guarded fashion - when family get-togethers come together it is a hard time to just sit and discuss what is REALLY going on with you. Family dynamics come out to play and sometimes it is great, and sometimes it is not good at all. But we are family for a reason...God put us together somehow. I think it is true that iron sharpens iron but man it is hard to have a sibling be that iron; although, how great that would be for siblings to connect at such a level that their defenses (or defense mechanisms) towards one another or their own stories about one another take a pause and they can listen to one another out of love and pursuing understanding.
That would be a really nice world...I'd be open to that.
"The politics of family requires that family members live with each other for many years and never tell each other how they really feel; through a lifetime they do not meet or touch. One of the things we try to accomplish...is to help the members really see each other, to tell each other frankly their warm, positive feelings as well as the angry ones, and to allow happiness to become something to be experienced, rather than something to be remembered (p.190)."
Framo, J.L. (1976).Family of origin as a therapeutic resource for adults in marital and family therapy: You can and should go home again. Family Process, Vol 15, 193-210.
My take from this - this therapy model is rather interesting, still trying to wrap my head around it for sure but one thing I love about this is bringing a couple's family-of-origin (one partner at a time) into the therapeutic process.
I think of my own family-of-origin and the many unresolved or unknown perceptions and processes that have gone on and continue to go on with my older brother, my cousins, aunts and uncles and my own parents. It is something we often never take time to really talk about TOGETHER. And in a non-guarded fashion - when family get-togethers come together it is a hard time to just sit and discuss what is REALLY going on with you. Family dynamics come out to play and sometimes it is great, and sometimes it is not good at all. But we are family for a reason...God put us together somehow. I think it is true that iron sharpens iron but man it is hard to have a sibling be that iron; although, how great that would be for siblings to connect at such a level that their defenses (or defense mechanisms) towards one another or their own stories about one another take a pause and they can listen to one another out of love and pursuing understanding.
That would be a really nice world...I'd be open to that.
Saturday, June 5, 2010
Circle of Moms
Circle of Moms
During one of my breaks while studying - I found this application via Facebook that I am beginning to like, and then found a group that has December 2008 babies and thought it was kind of neato - don't know if I will join but it's cool.
December 2008 Babies on Circle of Moms
During one of my breaks while studying - I found this application via Facebook that I am beginning to like, and then found a group that has December 2008 babies and thought it was kind of neato - don't know if I will join but it's cool.
December 2008 Babies on Circle of Moms
Wednesday, June 2, 2010
Amazed by Learning & Figuring Myself Out
We as humans are so very interesting and complex. I used to toute myself as a "simple" person, no pretense or fakeness however what I didn't realize is that I too have opinions and when confronted by something I do not like I am vocal. A simple person may not necessarily be so vocal or have an opinion.
I think marriage helped me figure this out the most, or should I say Mark. :) He'd ask me where to eat and of course I would say "wherever" - remember I'm a "simple" person, easy to please and then he would say "where" and I would say....nah I don't want to go there. LOL...I have an opinion.
Anywho I've come to realize I am just as complex as any other person and sometimes maybe more since I am aware of myself...and continually learn about my own awareness and myself. I love learning...but I don't like anxiety and the trials that come from knowing and not knowing. Alas it is life,and we are ALL complex!
I think marriage helped me figure this out the most, or should I say Mark. :) He'd ask me where to eat and of course I would say "wherever" - remember I'm a "simple" person, easy to please and then he would say "where" and I would say....nah I don't want to go there. LOL...I have an opinion.
Anywho I've come to realize I am just as complex as any other person and sometimes maybe more since I am aware of myself...and continually learn about my own awareness and myself. I love learning...but I don't like anxiety and the trials that come from knowing and not knowing. Alas it is life,and we are ALL complex!
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