Showing posts with label Ian. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Ian. Show all posts

Monday, January 1, 2024

Welcome to 2024 :: Cultivating Aliveness

 Welcome to 2024 ::  Cultivating Aliveness

2023 brought A LOT of growth for our family and various challenges (again a normal year for us): 

  • Mark began his podcast "Mental Health and Ministry" and has interviewed several people. It has been life-giving for him and frankly he's really, really good at it. He discusses depression in ministry and how to support someone who is struggling. 
  • Kara completed one year with Cincinnati Children's in June with pioneering the Moving Beyond Depression program working with postpartum mothers and mothers of 0-3 year olds with maternal depression. It has been exciting and exhausting and she did put herself to the side along the way. Her self-care has had good rhythms and not so good rhythms. In the end, she is ready for a recalibration of serious magnitude and to pursue vitality.
  • Ian began 9th grade and began playing soccer last spring FOR THE FIRST TIME, ran Cross Country again and in his free time enjoys playing computer games, at one point playing chess, rapping songs and working out. He did start a McDonald's job in the summer and did really well, but he learned that working in fast-food is not where he wants to be, but it really helped him grow as a person. "People are mean mom!" "Yes, yes they can be," I agreed.
  • Elijah began 5th grade, remains fascinated by dinosaurs, played soccer again and specifically Goalie position this past Fall, and enjoys playing Roblox, Fortnite and Nitro Typing in his free time.
  • Katie is 8 years old now, still loves to cuddle in your face, bait Ivy into take her raw-hides so she can grab them back and continues to love car rides.
  • Ivy is 3 and a half years old and plays like a puppy with zoomy fits and then long naps. She still sits like a princess and growls like a bear. She is remains submissive but her growl scares things away.
  • We are very grateful for God’s continued faithfulness, peace and His humor. We have seen so much growth in both of our boys and in ourselves. We look forward to see how His hand works this year. Much Love to you! 
  • The Messmores

Friday, December 24, 2021

Ian turns 13

Your favorite movie lately: Any videos about WWE

Your favorite food: Ice Cream Cake

Your favorite song: WWE entrance theme songs

Your favorite phrase or exaggerated word: "Beans"

You enjoy: 
  • playing outside with a neighborhood friend 
  • wrestling with your wrestling dummy on the trampoline
  • watching WWE shoes and playing WWE video game
  • watching Mr. Beast videos
  • dog parks, Festivals (where dogs are or goats)
  • vacation and time off with family
  • cuddling with your puppies
  • reading Diary of a Wimpy Kid or Big Nate

Saturday, November 17, 2018

The Real Tragedy

I'm finding deep sorrow in this season and I don't know how else to phrase it.

And it's not necessarily for me but it is for my sons, one in particular. I grieve his loss of wonder and wilderment due to anxiety and emotions that at his age - I wish he would never experience.

I mourn that he feels left out, he feels bullied at times and that to him, embarrassment is the ultimate ending to a friendship and his biggest fear. It shouldn't be this way. He shouldn't have to deal with life in this manner. And the isolation is almost unbearable. He has gifts that he doesn't even know about because he fears beginning new things.

He despises when we leave the house because he will "waste time" when he could be doing something else.

Despair to deliverance - this is God's promise. Mercy Lord, please Mercy

Monday, August 12, 2013

sneak peek: the photo session

Being photographed by a professional photographer who has years of experience and actual photography education was something else. Mark Hand of Photo Creations here in Ohio was so great with our boys and with us. He was able to capture some very candid, laughable moments that we will treasure and some very precious peaceful moments. Here are just a few of the laughable moments and a precious one:







Thursday, August 1, 2013

Right Now: Ian 4+

Your favorite movie lately: Curious George or Chuck and Friends

Your favorite food: you stated "it's steak & pizza!!"

Your favorite pajamas: anything superhero (continues to be)

Your favorite song: anything upbeat seriously

You repeat words such as "Crabby patty" and "party"

You enjoy: 

  • making Elijah laugh
  • playing outside anytime and with anyone
  • going places
  • vacation!
You experienced your first water - waves & making a sand castle!





Saturday, July 27, 2013

Ian & Elijah's current routines - for my records

ELIJAH
"Usually"
Wake 7:30am & Eat --- food & bottle (usually drinks about 3 oz - we make 5oz & mix w/cereal); you're beginning to have some small chunks of banana & some vanilla yogurt!! & of course cheerios!
Play
Nap 9/9:15-9:45/10 (unless you sleep more or not)
Play
Eat 11-11:30am --- food & bottle   (baby food & real food; little bits of cheese, deli meat, pasta, etc or ground up in baby grinder----bottle 6.5 oz mixed)
Play
Nap 1ish-?
Play
Eat 2:30 (if 11 last time) or 3 (if 11:30 last time) - just bottle (6.5oz) & cheerios or other snacks
Play
Nap if tired 4:15ish-? (no later than 6:00) (if you even nap or we pick you up from childcare)
Play
Eat 6-6:30pm
Play, play, play  (sometimes bath)
Bedtime (depending on naps) 7-8:15pm -- give another bottle then lay down, no rocking needed.


IAN
"Usually"
Wake 7-7:30....or if he's really tired he sleeps in (no problem with that)
Eats when breakfast is ready
Plays
Lunch 11:15-12:15ish (whatever works)
a little more play....unless Elijah is down then...
Nap...(12:30/1ish - ? -- he reads some & then falls asleep
-- we hit the blue button on his clock & it sets for at least 1:30 -- on weekends he sleeps more if the room is dark

Snack - when he wakes from nap if its around 3:00-4:00pm
Play

Supper 5:30-7:00pm He's good with most whatever. :)
Play -------- sometimes bath (beginning at 7)
Snack before bed - cheese stick, banana, maybe cereal, something light, sometimes jello
Bedtime (starts around 7:45-8:00pm...depending on Eli too)
   -- pajamas
   -- brush teeth
   -- read book & pick out animal & put sheets or blanket on
   -- pray

Saturday, June 22, 2013

Right Now: Ian 4 1/2 years

You continue to amaze me everyday and especially when you are so kind or you show your gentle personality to me. You are so caring at times that it melts me.

Your favorite movie lately: the Lorax: Larry boy - Veggie Tales

Your favorite food: Mac'n Cheese or green peppers and hummus OR PB&J

Your favorite pajamas: anything superhero (continues to be)

Your favorite song: Skillet's "Superhero" song - you have begun to like Toby Mac
      You are now more apt to sing song and get up and dance!

You love to "race" anything (most everything is a competition to you) and to play outside any chance you have. You are hilarious and ask for "special things". 

You look forward to playing with our neighbor Cameron any chance you get.

You enjoy: 
* watering flowers, 
* playing the Wii (especially boxing)
* going to any friend's house
* swimming (reluctant sometimes but learning)
* photography-taking pictures
* running - you just ran your (second race!) one full mile in 10:30 minutes!










Saturday, April 20, 2013

Right Now: Ian

Mr. Ian I don't write about you nearly enough and yet you have said so much in the last 6 months and grown so much!

Your favorite movie at one point: (you claimed) was Stars Wars....the Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtles

Your favorite food: Mac'n Cheese or green peppers and hummus

Your favorite pajamas: anything superhero

Your favorite song: Skillet's "Superhero" song

You love to "race" anything and to play outside any chance you have. You are hilarious and ask for "special things". You are the most wonderful big brother to Elijah and listen very well to how you can care for him and hold him.










You showing your art yesterday... :)

101 Amazingly Awesome Things to do with Your Preschooler.


I took this post from here.
1. Pick dandelions and sort them by blossom size - they get "flowers" and you get free weeding! Put them in a little glass of water on the dining room table.

2. Cook spaghetti together. Let your child pour in the sauce, pour water (from a pitcher) into the pot, and break the noodles.

3. Paint on a canvas.

4. Open a blank document and let them type words that you spell for them (or their name) on your computer.

5. Lie outside on a blanket and point out shapes in the clouds.

6. Take a plastic baggie on a nature walk, and ask your child to find ten different things. Lay out the collection of found nature objects and compare their shapes, colors, textures, and smells.

7. Make sidewalk chalk art. Teach your child how to play hopscotch!

8. Dye eggs. (Who says you have to wait for Easter?)

9. Play "I Spy" with letters of the alphabet and/or household objects ("I spy something that starts with the letter 'W'" or "I spy something that plugs in,")

10. Sort something by color together (clothes, toys, books, etc).

11. Go to a hardware store and pick out a bunch of paint chip strips. Cut out the squares and glue pairs of them back-to-back on a length of string to make a paint chip garland (the string should be between the back-to-back paint chip pieces when you glue them together).

12. Play "Follow the leader."

13. Look at old photos and point out friends and family members. Talk about how they are different now.

14. Eat a spoonful of peanut butter. Or Nutella. Or something else that should probably be forbidden to be eaten by the spoonful. Pretend it's an extra special amazing treat and you're only giving it to them because you're the best mom (or dad) ever.

15. Move the living room furniture, put blankets and pillows on the floor, pop popcorn, and watch a movie.

16. Have a family game night...stack up games like Candy Land, Guess Who?, and Chutes and Ladders, and play until bed time.

17. Teach your child how to use your camera (or get them one of their own), and let them take a picture of you. Print it, frame it, and put it in their room.

18. Put on jeans and long-sleeve shirts and roll down a hill together.

19. Tell a story about when they were a baby.

20. Tell a story about when YOU were a baby.

21. Pull up blades of grass and sort them from smallest to tallest. Practice whistling through grass.

22. Teach them how to taste honeysuckle.

23. Sort jewelry by color, then re-sort by type.

24. Line up the stuffed animals on the sofa in the living room, give your kiddo a microphone (or a hairbrush, or a magic wand), and let them perform their favorite song.

25. Throw a sheet over the dining room table and make a fort underneath.

26. Match socks. Use the leftover ones to make sock puppets.

27. Have a conversation with them that aims at teaching them something. Talk about the function of the dishwasher as you unload it ("What do you think this does with the dishes?") or about why the ice in their drink melts when you pour them a glass of water ("Do you think the ice will stay in there forever? Will it melt? Why?")

28. Make music out of kitchen utensils.

29. Ask your child what their favorite animal is, what they think it eats, where they think it lives, etc. Then let them help you figure out what letter their animal starts with, ask them to help you find that letter encyclopedia, and look it up (yeah...like in a book.). Show them a picture of their animal and read them some interesting information.

30. Go to a park that has a playground and give them a quest ("Let's pretend that play structure is a ship!")

31. Go to a park without a playground. Take a ball or a bike.

32. Blow bubbles and try to catch them on the wand as they fall without making them pop.

33. Let your child cut the letters of their name out of a magazine with safety scissors and paste the letters (in order) onto paper.

34. Let your child cut out "things they love" in a magazine with safety scissors and use them to make a collage. Parenting magazines and magazines specifically for kids are great for this!

35. Have a tickle fight.

36. Have a pillow fight.

37. Roll your kids up in blankets and pretend they're cocoons. See who can get out of their cocoon first and turn into a butterfly.

38. Put on relaxing music and do some yoga together...or pretend to do some yoga together. They'll never know the difference.

39. Play with play dough.

40. Spell words and play word games with magnetic letters ("Which one spells 'Daddy?' Is this word 'cat' or 'bat?'").

41. Go outside and spin in circles until you get dizzy and fall over...it's fun to watch kids walk after this.

42. Make a sensory box out of dry rice or beans and a shallow plastic container with a lid. Use funnels, measuring cups, and other containers to play in the box.

43. Spray shaving cream on a cookie sheet and write, draw, and sculpt with it.

44. Put six clear glasses on a table. Put a half cup of water in three of them - one with several drops of red food coloring, one with blue food coloring, and one with yellow food coloring. Use the empty three glasses to figure out what colors red+blue, blue+yellow, and yellow+red make when they are mixed together.

45. Shine a flashlight onto the wall in a dark room and make shadow puppets.

46. Let your kid pick out (or make) thank you notes and then USE them.

47. Show your child how to read the numbers on the digital clock on the cable box or the microwave (super helpful with keeping morning routines on track!).

48. Cut shapes out of construction paper, and then give your child school glue and dictate a sequence to them ("first, glue the big yellow square in the middle of the page, now glue the red circle to the top of the square, and now put the three little blue triangles inside the square"). Praise them for their ability to follow directions well. Praise yourself for reinforcing shapes, colors, patience, fine motor skills, and following directions all in the same activity.

49. Make letter shapes with your bodies.

50. Introduce your kid to classical music while riding in the car (You know...the station is always something like 89.7 or 90.5...you'll find it). Ask them questions about the music, ("Do you hear the violin? The flute is making this sound [insert your best flute imitation here]").

51. Commission a piece of artwork. ("Can you draw a picture of our family with your crayons?"). Once it's done, find somewhere prominent to hang it in your house.

52. Take a trip to the library for story time or to pick out books. Explain how libraries work.

53. Look up free activities in your area (things like "Touch a Truck" where kids can meet firemen and construction workers, or town park nights, or seasonal festivals).

54. Go to a baseball game...eat a hot dog.

55. Have your child pick out seeds for something (a vegetable, a flower, etc.). Help them plant it, take care of it, and watch it grow. If it's a veggie, reap and eat it!

56. Skype with a friend, a grandparent, or someone else who is far away.

57. Go to an antique store and peruse. Point out things that "used to be" to your kid...they'll be amazed that there was ever a world where rotary phones existed (and cellular phones didn't).

58. Play hide and seek or indoor flashlight tag.

59. Make bean bags (or rice bags) for a bean bag toss game. Use a hula hoop, bucket, or bowl for the goal.

60. Take a bucket of water and a paintbrush outside. Paint sidewalk art with water.

61. Make an easy indoor scavenger hunt ("Find a coaster, a bracelet, a crayon, and a sock!")

62. Make an easy outdoor scavenger hunt ("Find a pine cone, a flower, a rock, and a leaf!")

63. Go to a Lowe's or Home Depot kids' DIY clinic. (Click on the links for more info).

64. Hang a prism in the window and watch the rainbows.

65. Throw a pile of pillows blankets, and stuffed animals onto the floor and jump into them (the rainy day version of jumping into a pile of leaves).

66. Create a series of physical challenges ("first do a somersault, then do four jumping jacks, next crawl to that tree, and then run to the fence.")

67. Play charades using props.

68. Go to the farmers market. Make sure your kid will never embarrass you by not knowing what a potato looks like before it turns into French fries. ("that vegetable is an eggplant - see how shiny and purple it is? Is it bigger or smaller than the yellow squash? Which vegetable should we take home tonight to cook for dinner? Will you help me make it?")

69. Picnic in a park...or in your back yard. Let your child help you make sandwiches and pack juice boxes and count grapes as you put them into plastic baggies.

70. Get various (safe) items from around your house (a favorite stuffed animal, the remote control, a book, a crayon), blindfold your child, and then let them try to guess what the thing is just by touching it. Take turns!

71. Make a beaded necklace out of a piece of string (or jewelry elastic) and some beads.

72. "Tight Rope Walk" on the curb (safely please).

73. Taste and smell the spices on the spice rack (only use a speck if tasting...a little goes a long way). Ask questions about the spices ("Which one smelled sweeter: the cinnamon, or the garlic powder?")

74. Cut out and decorate a mask using the cardboard from the inside of an empty box of cereal. Tie it around their face with string or elastic.

75. Limbo with a broomstick.

76. Play indoor Marco Polo - crawl on the floor instead of swimming.

77. Find your town on a map or a globe. ("Where does Grandma live? Where was Daddy born?")

78. Play high/low. ("What is the best thing that happened to you today? What's the worst? What is the best part about being a big brother? What's the worst part?"). Encourage conversation that stems from these questions.

79. Build a bird feeder together. Cover a pine cone with peanut butter, roll it in bird seed, hang it from a tree, and watch for birds.

80. Tell your child five reasons why you think they're the best kid ever.

81. Point out things in your house that are in the shape of a circle, square, rectangle, triangle, etc. ("How many circle shapes do you see on the ceiling? What is the shape of this pillow? Let's put all of the square pillows in this pile and all of the rectangle pillows in this one!")

82. Turn off the TV.

83. Play big band music and dance around the living room.

84. Let your child pick out a new toy that they want, and then tell them that they have to earn the money to get it. Encourage them to do chores or help them take a photo of an old toy and put it up for sale on Craig's List or Ebay. Once the item is sold, help them take it to the post office and ship it. Make sure you remind them along the way what their "goal toy" is so that they'll remember why they're doing all this work.

85. Pretend to be statues. Tell your child to stand really still and see if you can get them to move without touching them/tickling them, etc. Take turns!

86. Go to a pet store and look at the dogs, cats, rabbits, guinea pigs, parakeets, goldfish, lizards, and hamsters. Talk about all the different types of animals that can be pets. Ask to hold them. Which ones are soft? Which ones are friendly? Which ones are the easiest to take care of?

87. Practice fine motor skills like buttoning, zipping, tying, buckling, fastening, and snapping. Cut up old clothes and put the fine motor pieces into a storage container to keep on hand so that your child can play/practice.

88. Put on old clothes, go outside with your child, and tell them to get as dirty as possible...you don't want to see a speck of clean on them when they're done playing.

89. Pretend you're just meeting your child and practice shaking hands. Please teach them to grasp firmly and make eye contact. It's never too early to learn, and they'll feel grown up while they're practicing.

90. Play the rhyming game. Think of a word and then take turns thinking of rhyming words...even if they're made up words, they still count! Read a Dr. Seuss book for ideas...

91. Ask your child to put together a donation box of old toys, and then take it to Goodwill or the Salvation Army (or your favorite donation center), and let your child give the box away themselves. Explain the significance of donating, and walk around the store...maybe you'll find something awesome!

92. Pick out three piggy banks for your child. Paint them, decorate them, or just purchase and use pre-decorated ones. Tell them that one is for saving, one is for spending, and one is for giving. Give your child a stack of quarters, dimes, and nickels, and let them figure out how to split their stash among their banks. Define "saving," "spending," and "giving."

93. Make patterns. Use a stash of buttons, silverware, legos, or anything you can find that has multiple matching pieces. Start laying out a pattern (i.e., yellow button, blue button, blue button, yellow button, blue button, blue button), and let your child try to finish the pattern once you've gotten it started.

94. Make a paper target by tracing circles onto paper in a variety of sizes (use plates, cups, and bowls for an easy pattern), and hang it on the refrigerator. Toss plain magnets at it and see who can get closest to the bulls eye.

95. Bake cookies from scratch.

96. Visit a local petting zoo.

97. Lie outside in the grass, close your eyes, and talk about what you hear instead of what you see (birds? wind? cars?).

98. Put on gloves, grab a trash bag, and pick up litter around your neighborhood (keep a close eye on kids for this one).

99. Build a terrarium together.

100. Host a neighborhood park night - let your child help you with the flyers, bring a case of juice boxes, and let the playground equipment do the rest of the work.

101. Create a treasure map and go on a treasure hunt. Make sure the treasure is worth the quest! Bonus for dressing up like pirates.

Monday, November 19, 2012

Ian - 3 years and 11 months

Ian, I keep thinking you are already 4 years old but you are not! You act so mature at times with various questions and statements and then I am reminded that you are still 3 when you whine incessantly and begin to throw your own version of a tantrum.


This is a summary for Ian. He is now 3 years and 11 months old.










EATING
You like most things even if you whine at first that you don't like it. But once you try things one time you usually like it. You LOVE tortellini and have for a long time. Chicken nuggets you would eat every night if we had it probably. You're favorite vegetable with corn and you do like green & red peppers and carrots with humus.  You ask for dessert each night (even if we don't have it). You really like fruit. You want ice cream or chocolate for something sweet. You enjoy crackers - especially breaking them into pieces (BOY!). If you had a choice for favorite meal right now, it might be mac'n cheese, cream corn and some sort of dessert.

SLEEPING
You are a great sleeper even if it takes you awhile to fall asleep. We have a wake up clock in your room. It turns yellow when you can get up. Our night-time routine sometimes goes short due to your desire to stay up. But you brush your teeth, potty, pajamas, responsibility chart, one book, drink of milk and prayer.

CHORES
You are eager to help us unless you are playing, then we have to ask you. You do set the table as well as clean up. You do well with small tasks. You put your toys away and books. Brushing your teeth and getting ready in the morning is part of it. You can't quite put your shirt on but you can put your underwear and pants on.

EMOTIONS
You are pretty sensitive and have a hard time taking harsh voices or disappointment when you make a mistake. You do however, have a temper and can work yourself up quickly if you don't like what we ask of you.

You are mostly happy and content and occasionally remain in a funk for a while and then laugh at something and say "you're so silly mommy". You do turn on a dime it seems.

SWIMMING LESSONS
You are further along in learning to swim and are in the Pike class again to continue to learn. You are doing much better and more willing to do and try what your teacher asked you to. Laying on your back as well as moving your arms and kicking your legs.

YOUR SCHEDULE

7-7:30--Wake up and get ready. Play just a little if there is time - especially with Eli. 
8:00 -- Head to Angela's Circle of Friends
8:15 -- Eat breakfast (pancake day I think is your favorite or french toast day!)
8:30-11:30 -- Group time, Story time, Learning, Play outside?
11:30 -- Lunch
12:00-2:00 -- Nap time
2:00 -- Play outside?
3:30 -- Reading and Independent Play time 
5-5:30 -- Pickup from School!
6-6:30 -- Play
6:30 - Eat supper
7:00 --Family Activities
7:50 --Get ready for bed or bath time
8:30--Bedtime 


Thursday, October 18, 2012

Fall Festival - Ian's School

This year we had great fun at the Fall Festival at Ian's school!! We made a family scarecrow which was wayyy fun!